Valentine's Eclipses

"Kissing, kissing, kissing. Kissing should rival sex in both pleasure and excitement and it should not stop once sex begins"

Those simple words sent me blissfully over the moon. Sent by a man I had been getting to know for a few months and for whom a secret and powerful crush was rapidly developing, they confirmed that he was thinking of me romantically. Hearts went a flutter and a very passionate relationship began.

For the cynics, Valentine's Day is no more than a cruel conspiracy waged upon the single by an evil consortium of chocolatiers, card manufacturers, and florists, all orchestrated by the greedy pharmaceutical industry. For anyone who has ever experienced the gift of Love, it is a chance to celebrate life's purist and richest magic. As this year's holiday falls right smack in the middle to two eclipses, my hunch is that it will be extra potent. With that in mind, for the next few weeks I'm writing a series on love with the intention of helping everyone - single or coupled - have a truly Happy Valentine's Day in 2008.

Lesson one, the happy couple starts with you. Sobering and possibly uncomfortable as this concept may be, it's the truth. You can only attract what is going on with you. So before we get to how to find your soul mate or how she or he is behaving, we're going to work with you. Further, because I tackle white elephants head on for sport (I'm just that kind of Light Worker), this first week we'll work on unblocking the single biggest obstacle to experiencing true love, the one that leaves big, dark, heavy spots in our auras for ages until it's dragged out into the light and released. It's the baddest of all Spiritual Mofos: unforgiveness.

We all know what it feels like, that old stuck grudge or hurt that we adamantly refuse to part with. We're "right" that we were "wronged" and generally speaking, we want the perpetrator to pay for the injustice done to us. In short, we don't want to "let it go." But the truth is, the longer we cling to old wounds by withholding forgiveness, the longer we pay the price, and the more damage we do to ourselves and our lives. We may mistakenly believe that we're getting even or settling the score, but we're not. We're giving our now and our power to the past and probably to someone completely undeserving of it. This past week I ran across a story that beautifully and aptly illustrates the real value of forgiveness.

It comes from a book called "Calling in the One" by Katherine Woodward Thomas, who did a three day meditation because she thought she could not possibly forgive her ex-boyfriend/business partner for their breakup and her ousting from their once joint business. On a night when the moon was quite round, the 2nd day of the retreat, she went outside, still tied in knots of unresolved anger, and gazed at the bright moon. Soon she found herself surrounded by "a multitude of ethereal beings" who told her:

`We understand your suffering and know well of your loss. You are right that you are owed a great debt. However, we have now incurred that debt and are the ones holding it We will make sure that all that is due you will be paid above and beyond that which you can even imagine. But in order for us to do this, you must first release him, for your attachment to getting restitution from him is preventing us from being able to give you your due."

She "got it" immediately and decided right then and there to forgive her ex. Soon after she met the man she married, came into a large sum of money and was able to buy the house she had been wanting to own for years. She was also ultimately able to see clearly how her ex had helped her bring her dream of their business to life and that without him, her lack of belief in herself would have likely prevented the success they had attained. So she was able to thank and bless him for his role and for being the person who taught her to value herself and her talents and ideas.

Happiness and well-being are lovingly and patiently always waiting for us to embrace them. No one is keeping them from us, but us. The sooner we give past injustices to the Divine to reconcile, the sooner we are free to experience healing, joy and true love. On Tuesday a big, bright full moon will shine down and reach out to us, and I'm relatively certain that the "ethereal beings" who helped Katherine will be on hand. You may want to take this opportunity to say a prayer to release yourself from the past, to forgive. Whenever you are ready, love is waiting for you. And until next week remember, only retired psychics have the lottery numbers!